Logically speaking to irrational people
Dealing with irrational people may be difficult because they abandon reason and focus on one particular point. Unfortunately, we all have at least one irrational person in our lives, but you can actually face them if they are not mentally challenged. You can use specific techniques to connect with these people and even find common interests. Follow these steps if you want to get in touch with a nervous and irrational person.
1- Don’t deliberately argue with them.
If you know this irrational person well then you probably know what and how to go into irrational state. Never talk about things that make them irrational, because it’s childish and annoying. It also confirms that person’s irrational behavior.
2- Use evidence.
Evidence is needed to win the debate, especially with an irrational person. Documents can hardly be denied, so prove yourself with reliable and specific evidence. Notice what kind of evidence this irrational person trusts: logical or emotional evidence? Some people rely on journal articles for scientific reasons and others.
3- Refer to logical reasoning.
Most irrational people tend to like logic and love it, you can use it to talk to them; for example, the logic of “silent reasoning” is that if there is no evidence for something like God or germs then Does not exist. Most people think they are reasonable until someone violates their thinking.
4- Talk about your own opinion (not each other’s).
Talking is a good opportunity to hear and express different opinions and views. Do not call the other person stupid for expressing their views, because they will become defensive and even irrational. Instead, focus on the topic at hand to find a way to solve those conditions.
5- Use “us” instead of “me” and “you”.
Language is very important when speaking. Using “me” and “you” creates some unnecessary distance between you and you, but using “us” makes you feel closer and makes the irrational person pay attention to your comments.
6- Respect their comments.
Treat others as you would like them to treat you. If you are impatient and disrespectful when discussing them, they will treat you the same. Remember, a two-way conversation is quite natural to oppose, but if you reject it completely, it is useless.
7- Apologize for mistakes.
At times, you may say things that make your audience feel uncomfortable and discouraged. If you hurt their feelings when talking to an irrational person, apologize. Most irrational people try to forget certain things, but if you don’t apologize, they probably won’t understand you.
8- Identify the right time to end the discussion.
It’s hard to finish, but sometimes it’s better. People rarely change their minds during a discussion, but after returning home they think about it and gradually change their minds.
If you do not finish the discussion when the person is angry and upset, you will also be irrational. Accept that everyone has different opinions and you can’t force others to think like you. End the discussion with this sentence: “I think we have quite different opinions on this issue, and I hope both of us today learn something new from this discussion.”